Notes:

Allie remembers her family (mother Peggy - probably) saying to Allie that..."she (Peggy, in New Jersey) had supposedly fallen down stairs and lost the baby before having me". 'A stillbirth-miscarraige.
Peter remembers Peggy telling him the boy was going to be named David.

Other Events and Attributes:

• Occupation: Real Estate Broker and Hotel Manager

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DONALD WELLES MCFARLIN 1900 - 1967 by; Peter F McFarlin - 2008, 2009

HAPPY DAYS OF YOUTH
My father, Donald Welles McFarlin, was the second son of William Kirk and Margaret Welles (Wiltsie) McFarlin and was born Oct 18, 1900 in his parents home at Hawthorne Ave, East Orange, New Jersey (NJ). As to the spelling of the Scots last name; b y 1900, Donald's father William had begun using the shortened version; McFarlin, although when young he and his father had spelt it McFarland.
Donald's eyes were blue and hair quite blond and wavy when young, becoming brown and curly by his teens. As shown by photographs, Donald was wearing glasses by age twenty. He was slender and reached about six feet when mature. He enjoyed reading m ore than sports and had a strong interest in family history/genealogy (!).
Donald grew up in the early 1900's in an affluent family setting in the town of East Orange, New Jersey (NJ), first at 16 Hawthorne Ave and then at 170 Glenwood Ave. The residents there were mainly New York City train-commuters and the area was al most wholly residential. He and his brother Kirk, eight-years older, went to the local elementary schools and both eventually to the fine East Orange High School, located on Winans Street, a one mile walk away. During summers some of the young boy 's visits were to the Wiltsie relatives in Chicago and to the Welles' homestead in Lake Keuka, New York. They also went to Florida to the Deland area. There were no known visits to the grandparent's McFarland/McFarlin homestead in Coitsville, Ohio . As my uncle Kirk says (# 3); "...I didn't know one single person on that side. My father had brothers, I never knew any of them...he had a brother Frank who died before I was old enough to know him."
One photo, about 1903, shows a three-year old Donald being playfully chased by eleven-year-old brother Kirk. Another picture is of five-year-old Donald holding up a heavy woodchuck just shot by brother Kirk in a recently cleared field, full of stu mps. (These photos, among various others, were given to Donald's son Peter in 1974, when he visited his uncle Kirk in Short Hills, New Jersey (# 2).
In 1908, while Donald was eight and still in the elementary schools, his brother Kirk left for Williams College, in Massachusetts (MA). From then on Donald and Kirk had limited contact except for the summers when both might be at home at the sam e time. Kirk explains; "...we fell apart ... from 1909 until 1920, except for a small amount of time, I was totally away, and after that time, he was away."
The 1910 census, taken in April, listed young Donald's family household under the last name spelled MacFarland and that his father William (and Wms parents, too), were born in Scotland. Furthermore, that William had immigrated in 1885 and was natu ralized - both erroneous data, and not likely made up by the census taker. Someone (Donald's mother Margaret?) had given the enumerator mistaken information. His father William was (correctly) listed as a "railroad manager" who owned their home fr ee of mortgage. They employed a live-in cook; Ida Aramson age 22, who had arrived from Sweden in 1904. All of the families in their Glenwood Street area were also well-to-do professionals who had from one to three servants per household.

MCFARLINS MEET FOLSOMS
About 1912, when Donald McFarlin was twelve, he attended a summer camp in New Hampshire where he and some of the boys wore shirts with a large W on them (perhaps for Lake Winnepesaukee?). Also at this camp was PFM's uncle-to-be; Edmund Hoffman Fol som who was one year older than Donald. They became good friends, exchanging photos and vying for muscular bragging rights (stretching on tiptoes and pushing up the biceps in photos). During these times (of 1912-1914) Donald probably stopped in af ter summer camp to visit Edmund at his home in nearby Brookline, (MA). In this Brookline Folsom family, Edmund had an older sister, Mary born 1896 and younger sister Margaret, born in 1906. Donald's brother Kirk would court Mary Folsom; 1917 to 19 25, and he, Donald himself, would later date, and then marry, Margaret Folsom in 1932.

TRIP ABROAD
In the late summer of 1913 Donald accompanied his mother Margaret and twenty-one year-old brother Kirk on a six week tour of Europe. They likely arrived in England first and then on into France, Germany, Switzerland and Italy. A photograph of Dona ld and his mother Margaret was taken by brother Kirk on a hillside path in Switzerland. Thirteen-year-old Donald with backpack is leaning on his alpenstock just above a railroad track with the snow-capped Jungfrau in the background. Coincidentally , his son Peter later goes up that same railroad to the Jungfrau, during the winter of 1956, while on leave from his US Army station in Mainz, Germany.
The McFarlins returned to New York City from Naples, Italy on the SS Princess Irene arriving Sept 25th, 1913, just prior to WW I.

UNIVERSITIES
In the 1920 US Census, taken on January 3rd, nineteen-year-old Donald is enumerated in his parents house, still at 170 Glenwood Ave in East Orange (owned free of mortgage), and is attending school (college). In the garage at the rear of the McFarl in property live their chauffeur George Ader with his wife (cook), and daughter (nurse) as well as two household maids. The nurse likely was for Mrs McFarlin for her "nervous condition" (described below by her son Kirk). The family was still prosp ering with; William conducting railroad construction (with his partner, Frank Hyde), brother Kirk in import/export brokerage and Donald starting his higher education.
Donald was just a few months too young to register for the WW I draft in 1917. Upon graduating from East Orange High School in 1918, Donald attended William's College for two years, but then transferred to Cornell for one year. He was a member o f Psi Upsilon fraternity, as was his brother before him at Williams. However, Donald did not finish college, called back, I think, by the family troubles at home.

DONALD'S PARENTS SEPARATE
We pick up uncle Kirk's story (# 3) again about this time; ..."Now my father - it was in 1921 or 1922 that my father and mother separated. ...my mother had developed what I considered to be a nervous condition, which pursued her until eventually s he had a stroke. ... After the separation they lived apart for the rest of their lives."
Donald at first chose to go with his father to William's nearby apartment in East Orange while brother Kirk went to live with their mother in her new home in South Terrace, Millburn, NJ. "My father set up single living in an apartment down in Eas t Orange. My brother went with him". As soon as Donald left college he went into real estate business in the East Orange area while living at his father's apartment there.

DONALD'S CAREER
Regarding his brother Donald, uncle Kirk relates to PFM in 1974 that "He was in the real estate business here, and he actually sold this property next door to us (Delwick Lane) to a friend of ours who built a house there." Brother Kirk and Mary Fo lsom picked up Donald in the town of Boonton on Sunday Oct 26th, 1924 and they spent the day together at his mother Margaret's Millburn home. The three played tennis in the afternoon "at the club" until it got dark and after supper they all drov e Donald back to Boonton (his apartment there?).
Donald had started working for the General Motors Corporation in the winter of 1924 and in May of 1925 he "came into a better position" with them. This was apparently a temporary career change. When Kirk married in 1926, Donald moved back with hi s mother at South Terrace to be with her. "Then he went into building construction with an uncle on my mother's side (George Wiltsie) and they operated here for a couple of years." The 1930 US Census shows Donald living with his sixty-five year-ol d mother at 84 South Terrace in Millburn. He is listed there as a general manager in building construction.
"Then Donald joined some real estate organization in Hoboken." relates his brother Kirk. Donald applied for Social Security (# 151-09-0226) on Nov 30th 1936 giving his home address as 10 Park Ave, Maplewood, New Jersey and his employer as the Hobo ken Land and Improvement Co.

DONALD AND PEGGY FOLSOM
As mentioned before, Donald had first met Peggy Folsom through her brother Edmund's New Hampshire camp and Donald's early visit(s?) to their Brookline home. Donald was about thirteen and she about seven at that time. The Folsom/McFarlin family con nection continued in the teens and early twenties when Peggy's older sister Mary and Donald's older brother Kirk were dating. The two familys may have had a further connection through the Lake Placid Club in Essex County, New York where Kirk McFar lin, his mother Margaret and perhaps his brother Donald, took vacations during the summers. Mary Folsom had canoed there with Kirk and his mother in the summer of 1924.
Also, during the summer of 1925, Peg's brother Edmund lived at his wife Esther Dann's parent's summer place in Camp Abenaki almost next to the Lake Placid Club. He helped run the large Placid Club's laundry facility for his father-in-law, James Da nn, who was in the professional laundry business. It is quite likely Eddie and the McFarlin's were in touch there in the Adirondacks. And then, in that fall of '25, he and wife Esther moved to 173 Park Ave in East Orange, less than ten miles awa y from his old camping friend, Donald McFarlin, who was living with his mother Margaret at South Terrace in Millburn (Short Hills) New Jersey.
No doubt Donald and his family occasionally visited together with Eddie and Esther Folsom. Then Ed became ill with Bright's disease, returned to Brookline in 1927 and died there in July, 1929 (on his sister Peggy's twenty-third birthday, which dev astated her, due to Peg's closeness to her brother). It is likely that Donald came to Brookline to pay his respects to Ed Folsom's family and became re-acquainted with Peg. For the next year, she continued at The School of the Museum of Fine Art s (Boston) graduating in June of 1930.
During that year Donald and Peg became closer and then, by spring of 1931, they announced their engagement. Some of the photos taken of them at her parents home at 200 Washington St in Wellesley Hills in this year, include Peg's 1930 Ford Mode l A Roadster which she used in Massachusetts and loved to drive. Donald was still living with his mother at her home at South Terrace in Millburn, New Jersey, and he would come to Wellesley by train. He remained in real estate and construction eve n though business times were difficult just after the Oct Crash of '29. Times became even more difficult during the ten year depression that followed.

WEDDING BELLS
Donald and Peggy were married in January of 1932 at the Church of our Savior in Longwood, Massachusetts, with a small gathering of relatives and close friends. They stayed at the Charlesgate Hotel in Boston for several days and then 'honeymooned ' in his mother's South Terrace home in New Jersey, for two weeks while she was in Florida. They were having their own little rental house at 222 Hillside Ave in nearby Chatham cleaned and painted. They moved in there by mid-February. This first h ome was about three miles away from his mother's house and four from brother Kirks and Pollys.
When Peg's parents Mollie and Franklin were first visiting them in Chatham in May of 1932, Mrs Folsom (Mollie) wrote a newsy letter to Peg's sister Mary Applegate in Wellesley. Part of which is; "Margaret was going to write you, but they at presen t, have a great deal to worry them and I do wish we could lend a helping hand, but we simply cannot. Donald is proud and doesn't want us to know, but Margaret has told us secretly..." This appears to be the start of some of Donald's (and Peg's) co ming monetary hard times.
The Kirk McFarlins had a nice family gathering at Delwick Lane for Christmas of 1932, with Kirk taking a 'cable' picture of the group at table. Then, some time in mid to late 1933, Peggy had a miscarraige of a baby, perhaps by a fall down some sta irs (Alison's recollection from her mother), and Peter recalls his mother telling him it was born a 'blue baby'. The boy would have been named David.

GOOD? TIMES
The speak-easy days ended in 1933 with the repeal of alcohol prohibition. At about the same time the newly-weds Donald and Peggy began to go into New York City fairly often, to the theater, dinner shows, and clubs. His mother later tells Peter tha t they became friendly with some of the better known musicians such as Tommy Dorsey. Donald began to drink more heavily and, she says, he gambled. Donald sometimes continued this trend, alone, and he began to stay out late, eventually inviting peo ple out to their home, unannounced, while Peggy was home alone.
But there were many good times too, there at their next home at 8 Everett Place in Maplewood. A 1934 photo of Donald, is captioned by Peggy on the reverse with; "Donald and Peggy on wedding trip - two years late - this 'trip' was a five day moto r trip much appreciated. Money is so scarce!" The photo shows just Donald with his suit jacket off and holding a cigarette. In all the other photos of him, Donald wore suits.
When Peg's parents came from Wellesley to stay for the birth of Alison during June and July of 1934, we find Donald; helping paint the newborn's 'carrying basket', going together with Peg to visit friends and joking about being kicked by the 'jump ing bean' inside Peggy. Mollie writes (to Mary A); "Donald is out hoeing and Peggy is holding her breath as she says he does not know a violet from a weed, but I told her never mind. ...She and Donald went to the the 4th of July comedy put on by t he town and later she, her father and Donald went out to see the fireworks."
Peggy wrote in July 1934 to her sister Mary about having had quite an adventure; "I'll bet mother didn't tell you about our ride out to Mendham in Washington Valley, last week, when Dan (Wright) came to dinner and we all had a beautiful drive thro ugh that hilly, quaint district and saw a splendid job, an estate Dan is doing out there. I'll bet she didn't tell about the night we were out in the Reservation and got stuck, and the miles Donald had to walk after monkey wrenches, and the teleph one for help, and how Kirk towed us to a garage in Springfield, dogs and all!" They also made various short trips to Mrs. McFarlins and Kirk and Polly's.

DONALD'S FAMILY GROWS
Finally the long-delayed (date was misjudged) birth-event happened and baby Margaret Alison McFarlin was born, August 1st, 1934 at the Orange Memorial Hospital. There were many visits from family and friends.
In the photo at left, Alison is standing in her carraige at nine months old. Donald and Peggy are visiting at his brother's Delwick Lane, Short Hills home. Polly looks on as Kirk takes the picture and their son Kirk jr hams it up lying on the wall .
In March of 1936, they moved to 10 Park Avenue, Maplewood and the Folsoms came to visit (via train, as they usually did) for a week or so at Thanksgiving time. Mollie writes; "Mr McFarlin is coming to dinner on Thanksgiving, Kirk and Polly going t o Mrs. McFarlins." Early in December Peggy writes that they went to see "The Great Zeigfield", a musical film that won three oscars. However, the 1936 letters from 10 Park Ave make little mention of Donald, and Peggy is now signing "Peggy and Alis on".
On a visit to Mary Applegate's Wareland Road home in July of 1936, Donald, Alison and Peg are on the lawn in front where Alison has just cooled off in a dishpan of water.
"Then Donald joined some real estate organization in Hoboken..." relates his brother Kirk. Donald applied for Social Security (#151-09-0226) on Nov 30th 1936 giving his home address as 10 Park Ave, Maplewood, New Jersey and his employer as the Hob oken Land and Improvement Co.
Donald and Peg's last child, Peter Folsom McFarlin, is born February 18, 1937 at Orange Memorial Hospital. Written in his baby book (by his mother) for his 'First Outing' was; "In his third month he made the trip to Wellesley Hills, Mass. Stayed t wo months. Then he and his sister were taken to the Jersey sea-shore. We took a sterno heater along, and heated the bottles which had been kept in an ice pail in the trunk compartment. He slept in a market basket. A crowded automobile, with three -year-old, three-month-old, cat, dog, and ourselves!"
In August of 1937, Peggy returned from her summer stay in Wellesley Hills, met Donald at the shore and they went to his mother's South Terrace home in Short Hills, while his mother was in New Hampshire. Peggy writes her sister on August 27th; "... After three days of doubt and fear of the waves, Alison studied other children going in, and made up her mind to go in, holding on to her mummy and daddy...". This is the last happy mention of Donald.
They then return to their next home at May Terrace in Maplewood. About this time, in 1937, Donald's mother Margaret had a massive stroke while she was visiting cousins in Florida. Conditions between Peggy and Donald worsened, and were heightened a nd made almost impossible by Mrs McFarlin's return and the requirements of her care, even though she had a full time nurse.

COMING APART
A separation was agreed on while Donald attempted to improve himself (alcohol, gambling and behavior). Aunt Elsie MacTaggart writes to Mary, on Nov 15th 1937, "...Margaret, the children and the furniture! are to arrive in Wellesley Hills soon af ter Thanksgiving. Their flat already let for Dec 1st." (prob. May Terrace - PFM) "He goes to his mother, who approves, and to spend holidays with his family."... (Peggy and children in Wellesley - PFM)... " All is amicable. Mary goes to take Aliso n temporarily during upheaval." Elsie continues; "Questions arise in my mind, naturally, and I wonder if funds for Mrs. McF have been stopped and it is deemed unsuitable to take her into the family of children. She is extremely difficult, screamin g when opposed, at times at the top of her lungs." Apparently, the Folsom family had been helping out with Mrs. McFarlin's expenses, too?
Peg and children did return to Wellesley Hills in 1937, first stopping with her sister Mary at Wareland Rd until taking a rental house at 48 Laurel Ave for a year until October of 1938. She and Donald attempted to reconcile during this period, bu t In July of '38, Peg writes a difficult and poignant letter to her Aunt Elsie.
"...Unfortunately, it has been proven that I cannot trust Donald, nor feel SAFE for the children or myself while he is my husband. The papers, filing suit for divorce on grounds of intoxification and mental cruelty, will be sent to Donald. ...Fina ncial promises have not come true: Donald has defaulted time after time and left me worried and frightened for the children. I have excused him, looking for rehabilitation of his great excesses.
"This last occurance, last week, was the end as far as I was concerned. An intoxification of a week, following a casual 'throwing up' of his position, and then daring to come to me and the children with no proper explanation of his conduct, was a n insult to my intelligence.
"After his mother left - a most difficult situation - I sent him away. ...Mary and Tertius, out of the goodness of their hearts, have offered me a place with them , free of rental, throughout the winter. ...The winter's arrangement will enable m e to start the long-needed 'rainy-day' fund that is compulsory when small children are concerned. ...I can 'pull my own weight', particularly when unhampered by never knowing what sad happening might turn up next by a weak, unstable character."
This powerful 1938 letter came into PFM's hands years after both Donald and Peggy had died. A strong, sad message from the past which shed some light on those difficult times. There are no other family photos of Donald or any further references t o him in our family letters.
Donald McFarlin declared bankruptcy in January of 1939 in the United States District Court of New Jersey. On October 20th 1939 Margaret Folsom McFarlin was granted a divorce from Donald on the grounds of abusive treatment and alcoholism. She was a warded custody of Alison and Peter and they remained in Wellesley Hills through 1955, when Peter went into the US Army and Alison married in 1956.

NEW BEGINNINGS -- THEN DONALD'S PASSING
Peter's uncle Kirk continues in their 1974 interview regarding his brother Donald; "...then he worked for my father for a time and eventually ended up with the Washington government in supply during the War. and while he was there he met his seco nd wife. She was in the Washington picture somewhere. She was Alice Miller and was very nice and unassuming. She had a daughter from a previous, unsuccessful marraige (Donald and Alice had no children). ...after his war bureau closed up...in 1945 , he moved to Florida and from there to Jamaica. (When Donald's son Peter visited cousin Kirk McFarlin (called Mac) in Rio Dulce, Guatemala in February of 2009, Mac said he had visited Donald in the 1950's while in the U.S. Marines. They had share d some Jamaican rum up in the hills above Kingston at Donald's hotel retreat which Donald and Alice owned and ran at the time.)
"They spent four or five years in Jamaica in motel work - managing. They tried to translate that into an enterprise...somewhere outside of Kingston - on the south shore. After four or five years, they found they could not combat the native strengt h without capital. This was very difficult - and they did not have the capital. So they finally withdrew from there and came back to Florida. They returned into the hotel/motel management operation and continued that until he became seriously ill.
"It was cancer of the throat. It was terrible. We were on our way to Guatemala and we stopped there (in Florida, about 1965-66) and he had had one operation and then a second operation and I think we were there between the first and the second. I t was hopeless and progressive, and this person, whom he had married, had nursed him when they had exhausted their hospital means. She nursed him for almost a year, single-handed, under conditions that were very difficult. And it was for this tha t we had a great deal of respect for her."
In a Jan 27th 1967 letter to Peter, his uncle Kirk writes;

"My dear Peter;
"I wrote your father at once about your visit here, and of your request that I do so. I had heard from him shortly before that time, but he was apparently not able to write after receiving my letter. His condition became critical and in early Janu ary he was moved back to the hospital. I am sorry to have to tell you that he passed away on January 12th, after an illness extending a little more than a year. His wife advised me of his desire to be cremated, and to be buried in the family plo t here in Millburn. ...Very cordially yours - Kirk McFarlin"

Donald's widow returned to Washington DC and worked for Lord and Taylor's for at least seven years before eventually moving to Wisconsin to live with her daughter and family. At the age of ninety-six, Alice Miller McFarlin died November of 1996 i n Three Lakes, Oneida county, Wisconsin, near her daughter's family.

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REMAINDERS AND CLOSURE
Peter and Alison have talked over the lack of their father ever contacting them during the almost thirty years from 1938 until his death in 1967. It remains a mystery why he did not and is something that was missed by them. But, even more, look wh at he missed out on, with us.
We wonder if the McFarlin/Folsom families might have created such a binding constraint on Donald that, at first, he found it beyond himself to make the contact, even if he'd wanted to. And later, he might have just drifted completely apart from h is children, as he slowly rebuilt his life, away from all reminders of the arguments and stress generated from his mother and Peggy's conflicting demands and needs.
Alison has no recollections of her father. Peter has always had one dim scene he 'remembers'; sort of interacting with his father. Peter was lying in his crib (at about age one) and his father pushed a ball towards Peter, (hoping to play ball?), b ut Peter (the baby), didn't push it back and Donald turned away disappointed. A peculiar memory to have carried all these years.
In the early 1980's, Peter, by himself, conducted a process of contacting his father. Without the details of the methods, but through meditation, Peter asked for a 'healing' contact with his father. During this, Peter felt a sharp electric 'jolt ' on his right shoulder blade, strong, but not unpleasant, and received a 'message' of mutual forgiveness with his father from the 'other side'. I forgave him and, most importantly, he forgave himself.

GENERAL NOTE:
While growing up and living in Massachusetts, Peter had various short conversations with his mother and her family, regarding his father, Donald McFarlin and the McFarlin family of New Jersey. Peter never met or spoke with his father after the sep aration of Donald and his mother Peggy in 1938 (when Peter was one).
In 1966 Peter asked if his uncle Kirk would please communicate with Donald in Florida to let him know of how Peter and Alison were doing, and that Peter would like to contact him (see above).

NOTES AND REFERENCES
- (# 1) McFarlin; 1966 - In October, while living in Riverdale, NJ and working at Alpine Geophysical Associates in Norwood, NJ, PFM first ever looked up (and telephoned) his uncle Kirk and aunt Polly McFarlin. This was followed in November by a vi sit from PFM to the McFarlin's home on Delwick Lane in Short Hills, NJ. At that time, uncle Kirk gave PFM a small amount of data and information.
- (# 2) McFarlin; 1974 - Many of the McFarlin (McFarland) births, marriages, and deaths, with the names, are from the 1832 William McFarland bible, presented to his grandson, William Kirk McFarland by Wm K's mother, Sarah (Kirk) McFarland, March 9 , 1897 (1877?). Photocopies of the vital records pages in that bible, plus copies of other vital record notes and letters, were given to Peter F McFarlin in 1974, by his uncle, Charles Kirk McFarlin, in Short Hills, New Jersey, who had the bible a nd notes in his possession at that time. Various McFarlin family photos also were given to PFM at this time.
- (# 3) McFarlin; 9-10 October, 1974 - Personal conversations between PFM and Kirk and Polly McFarlin at their home in Short Hills NJ. These were willingly taped and later transcribed to text. Occasional phone conversations with and letters from U ncle Kirk to PFM followed between 1967 and March of 1977, one month before Kirk died.
- (# 4) Family letters and photos in PFM's possession in 2008.

OTHER SOURCES:
- 1900 census; East Orange, Essex co, NJ ED 180 p 201; William K McFarlin a 39 b Ohio Mar 1861, Margaret W a 35 b Illinois Sept 1864, Charles K a 8 b Kansas b June 1892(?) and J Mary W Wilsey a 67 b New York July 1832 - all living at their home a t 16 Hawthorne Ave.(no Donald listed - census was taken in June, four months before his birth).
- 1910 census; East Orange, Essex co, NJ ED 163 p 266; Donald MacFarland(sic) a 9 b New Jersey living with his parents and brother Charles K at their home at 180 (sic) Glenwood Ave.
- 1913 SS Princess Irene passenger list; from Naples, Italy Sept 12th, arriving NYC Sept 25th. Donald McFarlin, age 12 b Oct 18 1900 East Orange, NJ with his mother Margaret McF a 48 b Sept 24 1864 Elgin, IL and brother Kirk McF a 21 b June 17 189 2 Topeka, KA, all three giving home address as 170 Glenwood Ave, East Orange, NJ.
- 1920 census; East Orange, Essex co, NJ ED 31 p 70; Donald W McFarlin a 19 b New Jersey, attending school, living with his parents and brother Kirk at 170 Glenwood Ave. Also in household were a chauffeur, cook, nurse and two maids, all living i n the McFarlin's garage at the rear of the property. The property was owned by the McFarlin's free of mortgage.
- 1930 census; Millburn, Essex co, NJ ED 7-505 p 5b; Donald W McFarlin a 29 b New Jersey General Manager in Building Construction, with his mother Margaret a 65 b Illinois. Both living in her home at 84 South Terrace with it's value of $32,500.
- 1932 Certificate of marraige; The Church of Our Savior, Brookline Massachusetts on the 23rd of January, 1932 between Donald Welles McFarlin and Margaret Folsom.
- 1936 SS # 151-09-0226; application dated Nov 30 for Donald Welles McFarlin of 10 Park Ave, Maplewood, New Jersey, born Oct 18 1900 in East Orange New Jersey. His employer was the Hoboken Land and Improvement Co, 1 Newark St, Hoboken NJ.
- 1939 Notice of bankruptcy - for Donald McFarlin by the US District Court of New Jersey, dated January 24th.
- 1939 Decree of divorce NISI # 5176; Dedham Probate Court, Massachusetts, dated Oct 20 (effective in 6 months) - between Margaret Folsom McFarlin of Wellesley, Norfolk co, and Donald W McFarlin of Short Hills, New Jersey. Stated causes were; "... cruel and abusive treatment and gross and confirmed habits of intoxication caused by the voluntary and excessive use of intoxicating liquor...", and that; "...the care and custody of their minor children, to wit: Margaret Alison McFarlin and Pete r Folsom McFarlin be and it is hereby awarded to the said libellant." (Margaret Folsom McFarlin)
- 1967 Certificate of death, State of Florida. Donald W McFarlin died at the Victoria Hospital, Miami, Dade County, of carcinoma of the pharynx (onset was 12 months earlier), informant was Mrs Alice McFarlin of 8235 Northeast 1st Ave (rear), Miam i FL. Donald was cremated 1/14/67, and later interred in the McFarlin family plot in Millburn, NJ.

Donald married Margaret Folsom on 23 Jan 1932 in Brookline, Norfolk Co, Massachusetts, USA, and was divorced on 20 Oct 1939. Margaret was born on 5 Jul 1906 in Boston, Suffolk, Massachusetts, USA; died on 3 Jun 1970 in Putnam, Windham, Connecticut, USA; was buried on 16 Jun 1970 in Exeter, Rockingham Co, New Hampshire, USA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

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Occasionally Mrs McFarllin would come to visit for dinner, and... "Polly and Kirk made a nice visit, and stayed around all yesterday in case I needed to be driven down."
Peggy wrote in July 1934 to her sister Mary; "I'll bet mother didn't tell you about our ride out to Mendhem in Washington Valley, last week, when Dan (Wright) came to dinner and we all had a beautiful drive through that hilly, quaint district an d saw a splendid job, an estate Dan is doing out there.
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• Name: William Kirk McFarland

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WILLIAM KIRK MCFARLAND/MCFARLIN 1860 - 1943 by Peter F McFarlin - 2008

THE EARLY YEARS
William Kirk McFarland was born at the Anderson McFarland family farm, on the Hazelton road in Coitsville, Ohio March 12th, 1860. He was the sixth child of Anderson and Sarah Jane Kirk(patrick) McFarland, and the first son to live to maturity. Th e William part of his name came from his grandfather William, born in Ireland in 1780, and the Kirk part was from his mother's shortened maiden name. By 1879, in his Ohio State University registration, Will had changed his last name's spelling fro m McFarland to McFarlin, as did his brother, Thomas Edward McFarlin.
He had three older sisters; Vine, by six years, Olive, by four years, and Betty, by two years. In the early years it's likely they helped their mother care for him, and also were likely his first playmates, which soon included his brother Frank , born in 1864, when William was aged four. Soon after that, William started at the local country school nearest to his home. He attended during the winter months, and then, in the long summer vacation, which usually began in spring and overlappe d into autumn, he would probably spend in assisting his father in the operation of the home farm. Young William was required by his family to stay working on the home farm until he reached twenty-one.

LEARNING MORE
When the family moved up to their larger farm in the Coitsville village center, his father also became the town's postmaster, for a period of seventeen years. This was during the 1860's and 1870's, and visits to the post office quite possibly gav e young William a taste of the larger world expanding into the west via the many railroads being built. Also, both of his sisters, Vine and Bettie were school teachers around 1878-80 while they were still living at home, and may have had some infl uence on William's desire to continue his own schooling.
From discussions (# 1, # 2, # 3) between Peter F McFarlin (PFM) and his uncle, Charles Kirk McFarlin, in 1966 and 1974, it was learned that William McFarlin was enrolled in the newly formed Ohio State University, in Columbus, while still at his fa ther's farm. The 1862 federal Land Grant Act provided for the proceeds from the sales of public lands to be used by the states to "finance colleges whose leading object was to promote the liberal and practical education of the industrial classes , primarily in the areas of agriculture and mechanics." Classes began in the new Ohio college in September, 1873, with twenty-four students enrolled on the first day. In 1878, the first class of six men graduated, and in 1879 the University gradua ted its first woman.
Upon writing Ohio State, their response to PFM (# 4) was; "The original registration book of the University shows a Will K McFarlin to have registered in September, 1879. He gave his residence as Coitsville, Ohio, his age as 19, and his parent o r guardian as A. McFarlin. He attended the University for one term taking Elementary Physics (in which he received a grade of pass), First Year Civil Engineering (passed with merit), and Second Year Agricultural Drawing (passed)."
The June 1st, 1880 Coitsville census for Anderson McFarland indicates that his son William is attending school at age twenty. The next year, when William reached twenty-one, he immediately left home for work with the Rock Island Railroad Line.

CAREER IN RAILROADING
As uncle Kirk explained it to PFM in 1974 (ibid.# 3)... "In those years, all farm boys were apprenticed to the family. I call it apprenticeship, they served without pay until they were twenty-one, the year of maturity in those days. At which tim e they had served their time, so-to-speak, and were free to do as they wished. Some stayed on the farm, maybe inherited it, you know, and others went out. Apparently he went out immediately he was free. I don't think he cared for farming. The onl y word that we have is that he joined the Rock Island Railroad, and that was quite a firm then."
In 1882, when Will was twenty-two, the History of Trumbull and Mahoning Counties writes..."William K (McFarlin) is now engaged on the new through line in the capacity of civil engineer..."(# 5 Williams p 175). He continued engineering and surveyin g for the Atchison, Topeka and Sante Fe railroad in the early to mid 1880's. He was helping to establish their new lines in Kansas, westward from Topeka. The 1885 Kansas state census lists Wm McFarland rooming at widow Cora VanBuskirk's, in Whit e Cloud, Kansas. This was, at the time, a fading corn and wheat milling town which had shipped a great deal of Kansas grains via the Missouri River. William's younger brother, Edward McFarlin also worked for the railroads and later married Anna, o ne of the VanBuskirk daughters.

Kirk continues; "He got some job on the Rock Island and this became almost a permanent, or long-time connection. He apparently surveyed the lines as they were laid west and that is where he met up with the man who would become his partner, who's n ame was Frank Hyde. They were men of an age. He had come from ... Wisconsin? And they became very close friends."

MCFARLAND, KANSAS
Kirk continued with another story to PFM; "...I think he was probably a division engineer by that time (1887) and he worked up and down a division. As they went along, each time they built a water tank, they named a town you see, and when they ra n out of names, they used his - which is our only claim to fame." The present small town of McFarland, Kansas, about thirty miles west of Topeka, had a population of 271 in 2000, and is still located just on the north side of the through rail line , and just south of exit 330 of Interstate 70. In October 2007, while passing through, Peter visited the town, looked over the railroad line, met with the town historian and read all the extant references to confirm(?) the family story. William Mc Farland/McFarlin's name doesn't show up in any reference and, in fact, the town was named after another; Judge Noah C McFarland of Topeka in the year 1887. Perhaps William was an engineer on the line at the time, and helped to lay out the line, bu t the town was not named for him.
In 1890 William was listed in the Kansas City directory living in Kansas City at 122 Reynolds Ave, and then Topeka, Kansas by 1891.

MARGARET WILTSIE
When asked how William met his future wife, Margaret Wiltsie, uncle Kirk explained..."I think, while he was working in Kansas, he came in contact with certain people in Topeka who had membership in a camp in Colorado. This was in the near vicinit y of Creede, which is up at the top of the divide at the head waters of the Rio Grande. My mother was invited there by a different family, to the same fishing camp. They met there under those vacation conditions in the early days of that country , 'cause that was the late 'eighties. He'd been west and was progressing back to Chicago. I have some of his courtship letters that were written from points in Kansas. Well, so one thing led to another, the letters were very formal; courtship lett ers of those days...It came to the point that they were married...in Elgin, where her family were."
In January of 1891, for their marraige license, William Kirk McFarlin, age thirty-one, gave his place of residence as Topeka, Kansas, and occupation as; superintendent of railroad maintenance. Margaret Welles Wiltsie gave her age as twenty-six an d residence as Elgin, Illlinois. They were married in Elgin, Illinois June ninth, 1891, by A H Ball, pastor of the 1st Congregational Church. The witnesses to the marraige were Mr. John Wiltsie and Carrie Dickenson. The groom's parents were Anders on McFarlin and Sarah J Kirk. William's place of birth was Coitsville, Ohio. The bride's parents were John C Wiltsie and Mary Welles, and Margaret was born in Elgin, Illinois.
The first of their two children, Charles Kirk McFarlin, our quoted story-teller here, was born in Topeka in June of 1892. However, no official record could be found in any of the Kansas state files which might help show where they lived and Willia m's occupational status then. No William McFarland/McFarlin owned property in the Topeka area at that time either.

COMING EAST
William settled for a few years in Davenport, Iowa by 1894 where he is found listed as the Superintendent of Maintenence and Construction for the Chicago, Rock Island and Pacific Railway Co. The Iowa state census of 1895 also lists William, Margar et and Charles, but spelled McFarland. In 1896 Davenport, William McFarlin lives at 1751 Grand Ave and in 1898 at 409 E 14th, Davenport.
Kirk relates more of his father's story, picking up a few years later-on, in the late 1890's..."Continuing his history, he was stationed in Davenport, Iowa, when some opening came up, here in the east, to which he was introduced by his friends i n the Rock Island. And he came east to become chief engineer of this road here - the Lackawanna system from here to Buffalo. The headquarters are here (New Jersey), so this is where he came. And that was about 1899 or 1900."
William and his family are found in the June 1st, 1900 East Orange, New Jersey US census, renting at 16 Hawthorne Avenue. He is listed as a Chief Engineer for the Delaware Lackawanna and Western Railroad. Living in the household are his wife Marga ret, age thirty-five, son Charles, age eight, and William's mother-in-law J Mary Wilsey, who was sixty-seven. Donald Welles McFarlin, his second son, is born there in October of 1900.

RR CAREER AND INVENTIONS
"Now, he..." (William) "... stayed with them in that position for about ten or twelve years. In the meantime, his later-to-be partner (Hyde) had become a very successful railroad builder and he had even built one of the Grand Central Stations. An d so eventually he left the Lackawanna and they went together as contractors to railroads. That was about 1910, and they worked here in that way until 1925. (McFarlin family anecdote has it that Kirk laid out much of the newer railroad systems i n New Jersey.) "But the war caused them difficulties because the war was a complete changeover in the method of doing business and he and his partner had been brought up to do business by hand and by word, not by contract. Then when the age of con tracts came in, and the unions, this they couldn't combat. So at that time they both began to retire."
While active in the railroad contracting business, William's engineering mind came up with the practical idea of improving the outdoor railroad platform roofs, which shed water and snow down onto the passengers while they were getting on and off t he trains. His new design had a row of single supporting columns in the center of the platform between the two railroad tracks at the station. These columns held up the protective, reversed roof by a cantilevered truss, all of which appears as a ' Y' shape in cross-section, and which cupped the 'elements' away from the patrons and down central drain pipes. This simple innovation was revolutionary and most all railroad termini installed them until they became commonplace. William never paten ted the design himself and so never gained recognition or royalties.
William is listed in the 1910 East Orange, New Jersey census, owning his own home at 180 Glenwood Avenue, age fifty, a railroad manager and married nineteen years. He is living with his wife Margaret and sons Charles K, age eighteen and Donald, ag e nine. They also have one Swedish servant cooking for them. Whoever the informant was on April 25th that year (wife Margaret?), gave some erroneous data to the census taker, by saying that William "MacFarland" was born in Scotland, with both pare nts born in Scotland, and being a naturalized citizen in 1885. It is certain that William was born in Coitsville, Ohio, proven with data taken from many other records and reports.
The partner of William's was Frank Davis Hyde, born in Wisconsin, and occupied as a railroad contractor. He was listed in the 1910 South Orange, New Jersey census, living at 576 Center Street with his wife Ada and their only child, a newborn daugh ter Frances. They had three Finnish servants; cook, maid and waitress.
By the 1920 census, William, Margaret and their two sons are now found living at 170 Glenwood Ave in East Orange, which is about a mile and a half walk from a RR station into NYC. William is occupied as a railroad contractor and as an employer. Th e family is now prosperous enough to have five others in their service at their home: George Ader, age forty-nine, chauffeur; Anna Ader, cook, age forty-five; Carrie Ader, nurse, age nineteen (the three Aders were black and born in New Jersey); El izabeth M Merritt, widow age forty-two, maid; and Margaret A O'Connor, age sixty-one, maid. All these domestic helpers are living in the garage at the rear of the main house. (In 2008, Google Earth shows the home from both the air and the street l evel.) In 1920, Frank Hyde, William's partner of about fifteen years, was still living with his wife Ada and daughter Frances a few miles away at 471 Center Street in South Orange. That census lists him also as a railroad contractor, and being a n employer. They, too, are prospering well enough to have four servants who are living with them.

DIFFICULTIES
We pick up uncle Kirk's story again about this time..."Now my father - it was in 1921 or 1922 that my father and mother separated. My father set up single living in an apartment down in East Orange. My brother went with him. He (William) lived a t a small family hotel down in East Orange and my mother lived variously in this area here. Always by herself, never with us."
William took a trip to Hawaii in 1923, returning to San Francisco on February 21st after a two day passage from Honolulu. This was perhaps to relax and settle his mind after the separation. Again, in 1926, William Kirk McFarlin returns to the US f rom another trip, this time in the West Indies, where he cruised for a month on the S.S. California during the month of January. He gives his birth place as Youngstown, Ohio and address in the United States as; 90 West St NY, NY, likely his plac e of business. In March of 1928 William arrives back from Cherbourg, France from another trip, with his home address given as 120 Hamson (sic=Harrison) St, East Orange, NJ
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RIFE - AND A BUSINESS THEFT
Question by PFM to his uncle Kirk; "When did the Rife Company come in?"(# 6)
"Well, this is how that happened. About the time he and Frank Hyde had completed some substantial work for the Lackawanna, they had a period of nothing to do. Some clever promoters from down in Roanoke who had opened an office up here, had manage d to work off a substantial part of the stock of this company on my father and Frank Hyde. They were then not active, so it looked like a good business. So they decided they'd get into this. Acquired enough of the stock to make it possible. He wa s an inactive stockholder from 1910 to 1918, then they were more engaged and he went into it to fill time. From that time on he continued, even though the company's condition went to pot - terribly.
"It (Rife) had been founded in '85. and he became active from 1920 until 1927. At that time, the office manager, in whom he had entrusted everything...and his wife, who was his book keeper, committed the inevitible; they walked out one night wit h all the records of the company. And they had all the customer lists, and they set up business right down the street. There were a great many details involved that I had to become familiar with in the process...He had an infinite faith in people . This was one of the causes of his difficulties, because when I had to step into this picture, I discovered that there was a great deal of dishonesty at his expense during the progress of this business which he had tried to operate during the yea rs. I have to admit I saw this through settling several of his scores...in process of continuing what had to be done.
"But, the men of that generation were simply sitting ducks for the slap-happy crowd that came up with the two wars, you know. The times changed...It was a different generation. They dealt by the word, not the written agreement or with lawyers. H e would not deal with a lawyer. Repeatedly, as he went through history, there were occasions where he was taken advantage of because he did not have faith in lawyers. He would rather forget it.
"This created an almost impossible condition which my father fought for the rest of his life. When he died - and in my opinion - considerably from the conditions resulting from the Depression. You see, this fellow took off and immediately followe d the Depression which was followed by the recovery of the late 'thirties, and then the War. It was enough to knock a stronger man out. He was eighty-two when he died. I think it had considerable to do with his death. The strain and this disappoin tment, you know?"
The census of 1930 finds William K McFarlin, age seventy, living alone at 120 Harrison Street, East Orange, renting for $120 a month. He reports that he is married, was born in Ohio and was currently occupied as a construction engineer.
During 1935 to 1937 he was occasionally invited over to his son Donald's home to visit with Donald, wife Peggy and their little daughter Alison and baby son Peter. He took his 1936 Thanksgiving dinner there, (with their little dogs and cat at hi s feet getting turkey scraps). "We played rummy too, and had a good time." (Peggy McFarlin letter)
Kirk continues, regarding Mrs McFarlin's financial support from William and the Rife company..."Now, this I did want to say to you, which I think is a matter of great interest. As my mother's condition became more and more difficult, it becam e - I had tried to stay out of this affair - I had spent years trying to keep it together and when it failed, I let it go. I mean I stayed away from it. I supported my mother, which I thought was the right thing to do. But, as the years went on, i t became necessary, as a matter of fact, I was the fiscal agent, everything came through me. My father did his best to offer support..." (to wife Margaret) "...until the time when he passed away. But we came to have considerable respect for each o ther. We used to visit him down at this little hotel. I'd often stop there on a saturday afternoon. He had a room. He was very happy because he could have his food, he could have everything and there was this room.
"He had three things in that room outside of the furniture, most of which they had furnished. Let me think, he had a bible, he had a dictionary, and he had an atlas. That was the furnishings of his room. He, of course, was always reading, he woul d get a book, but he would pass it on, or return it where it came from."

WILLIAM'S CHARACTER
"But, I have thought that any man who has mastered himself to the point of disposing of all of his - everything worldly - was something really extraordinary.
"He was a tremendous reader, he had definite characteristics. He was a great naturalist, tremendously informed. He had been a very expert golfer in his time...He was a very gregarious person. He had many, many friends and he was highly esteemed b y an awful lot of people... but when it came to politics, I guess he and I were somewhat the same, we never took it seriously... He was always a decent man, but to my knowledge never really had a (church) affiliation...
"He was an extremely social person...but he went more to the company of men. Of course, you see this thing (living together with his wife and socializing together) was cut off when he was sixty - about the time of this break and thats a hard tim e to judge.
"His hair was a very dark brown, not black, (later) his hair was white... He always had good color and he had extremely strong, blue eyes...In later years he suffered from cataracts. He had one eye repaired...I did hear he had had a heart attack , but I was never told about it. Outside of this eye trouble, that was all I knew of. He was a very strong man...and was six feet, but he was heavier than I am, even when he died, he was heavier. (than Kirk's 160 lbs)
"Eventually he passed away very quietly and very quickly, hurrying up a pair of stairs to take a train to his office, at the age of eighty-two. Bang, just like that."

PASSING
William Kirk McFarlin died unexpectedly on a Monday morning at the Brick Church railway station platform in East Orange. He was on his way to work, as usual. His son, Charles Kirk McFarlin, of Delwick Lane, Short Hills, New Jersey, gave informatio n for William's death certificate in 1943, saying William was a mechanical engineer, living at Hotel Alvord, East Orange, New Jersey, born March 12, 1860 in Coitsville, Ohio, son of Anderson McFarlin and Sarah (Patty-Betty?) Jane Kirk, both born i n Coitsville. The medical examiner gave reason for death as, "Sudden death on Brick Church Station platform; Cardiac failure, arteriosclerotic heart disease, Dec 6, 1943, 8:20 am." William was cremated (and buried?) at Rosehill Cemetery, Linden, N ew Jersey, December 9th, 1943.

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Whenever asked by Peter in later years, his mother, Peggy McFarlin and his aunt Mary (Folsom) Applegate always spoke highly of his grandfather William and were sorry not to have continued contact over his remaining years, from 1938 to 1943.

NOTES AND REFERENCES
(# 1) McFarlin; 1966 - In October, while living in Riverdale, NJ and working at Alpine Geophysical Associates in Norwood, NJ, PFM first ever looked up (and 'phoned) his uncle Kirk and aunt Polly McFarlin. This was followed in November by a visit f rom PFM to the McFarlin's home on Delwick Lane in Short Hills, NJ. At that time, uncle Kirk gave PFM a small amount of data and information.
(# 2) McFarlin; 1974 - Many of the McFarlin (McFarland) births, marriages, and deaths, with the names, are from the 1832 William McFarland bible, presented to his grandson, William Kirk McFarland by Wm K's mother, Sarah (Kirk) McFarland, March 9 , 1877 (1897?). Photocopies of the vital records pages in that bible, plus copies of other vital record notes, photos and letters, were given to Peter F McFarlin in 1974, by his uncle, Charles Kirk McFarlin, in Short Hills, New Jersey, who had th e bible and notes in his possession at that time.
(# 3) McFarlin; 9-10 October, 1974 - Personal conversations between PFM and Kirk and Polly McFarlin at their home in Short Hills NJ. These were willingly taped and later transcribed to text. Occasional letters from Uncle Kirk to PFM followed betwe en 1967 and March of 1977, one month before Kirk died.
(# 4) Ohio State University; March, 1971 letter to Peter McFarlin
(# 5) History of Mahoning and Trumbull Counties; Williams; 1882 v 2
(# 6) Rife Hydraulic Engine Manufacturing Co, Millburn, NJ; 1965, Water pumps driven only by the water's gravity power.

OTHER SOURCES
-1860 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 13 with his father Anderson McFarland (William K's age 4 months, born in Ohio)
-1870 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 107 with his father Anderson McFarland (William's age 9, born in Ohio, attending school)
-1880 census; Coitsville, Ohio ED 95 p 89 with his father Anderson McFarland (W K's age 20, son, born in Ohio, both parents b in Ohio, attending school)
-1885 census; Kansas, White Cloud, Doniphan co p 2; Wm Mcfarland sic a 25, single, b Ohio, came from Ohio to Kansas, residing at 30 yr-old widow Cora VanBuskirk's rooming house, with her daughters; Anna 14 and Edith 10, and; Thomas Cecil a teache r of Ohio a 30, James McConnor a clerk of Missouri a 18, George Westfall a boat captain of Kansas a 25, and Lucy Moore a cook of Kansas a 18.
-1890 city directory; Kansas City 1890/1891; "William McFarlin r 122 Reynolds avenue"
-1891 marraige register #2 Illinois State board of Health p 296; marraige license # 7511; Wm Kirk McFarlin and Margaret W Wiltsie.
-1900 census; East Orange, Essex co, New Jersey ED 180 p 201(his age 39, born in Ohio March 1861, m 9 yrs, Chief Eng Delaware, Lackawanna and Western RR, renting house at 16 Hawthorne Ave)
-1893 city directory; Davenport, Iowa;
-1910 census; East Orange City, Essex co, New Jersey ED 163 p 266 (his age 50, m 19 yrs, born in Scotland, b parents b Scotland, nat 1885, manager of railroad, working, owns home free of mtg at 180 Glenwood Ave)
-1920 census; East Orange, Essex co, New Jersey ED 31 p 70 (his age 50, born in Scotland-overwritten by Ohio, b parents b in Ohio, working as a Railroad Contractor employer, owns home free of mtg at 170 Eastwood St corn of Glenwood Ave)
-1930 census; East Orange City, Essex co, New Jersey ED 376 p 167 (his age 70, still married, married at age 30, born in Ohio, both parents b in Ohio, working as a Construction Engineer for highway, rents with 7 other households at 120 Harrison St , for $112/month)
-1943 New Jersey State Department of Health; death certificate

William married Margaret Welles Wiltsie on 9 Jun 1891 in Elgin, Kane, Illinois, USA. Margaret was born on 24 Sep 1864 in Elgin, Kane, Illinois, USA; died on 26 Mar 1949 in Springfield, Union, New Jersey, USA; was buried in Apr 1949 in St Stephens Cemetery, Millburn, New Jersey, USA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

MARGARET (WILTSIE) MCFARLIN 1864 -1949 by; Peter F McFarlin - 2008

TEACHER UNTIL AGE TWENTY-SIX
Margaret Welles Wiltsie was born 24 September, 1864 in Dundee, Illinois. She had an older brother Charles, born in 1858 who died of dysentery at age one and a half. Also, an older sister Bertha (Bertie), born in 1861, who died at just thirteen mon ths old. Margaret was therefore, the oldest of the remaining three children of John C and Mary (Welles) Wiltsie. She had two younger brothers; George Wiltsie, born 1868 and Walter Wiltsie born 1871.
In 1870, when age six, young Maggie (as she was called then) lived in Dundee, Illinois on her parents farm. Ten years later, Maggie and family were living in Elgin, Illinois and her father had gone into the cattle dealing business.
PFM's uncle Kirk McFarlin (Margaret's son) relates in 1974; "She began teaching - she was a teacher at sixteen (1881) which was in those days not uncommon, in the Elgin Academy and I think she went from there to the schools in Evanston, at which t ime she was married." (# 1)

CAMPING AT CREED
While William McFarlin was working in Kansas in the late 1880's, "...he came in contact with certain people in Topeka who had membership in a camp in Colorado - in the near vicinity of Creed, which is up at the top of the divide, at the head water s of the Rio Grande. My mother was invited there, by a different family, to the same fishing camp. They met there under that vacation condition - in the early days of that country. My mother was teaching school in (Elgin) Ill, where she was spons ored by a very fine family, who were the ones who were responsible for her being out there at that camp. and she was very much taken with Colorado at the time. Somewhere there used to be a scrapbook that she had made at that time. Well - so one th ing led to another; the courtship letters were very formal in those days."

WEDDING AND HOUSEKEEPING
When Margaret and William were married in 1891, the certificate was signed by Rev A H Ball, member of the 1st Congregational Church of Elgin, Illinois. She and William had their first child, Charles Kirk McFarlin, born in Topeka, Kansas. Then the y had Donald Welles McFarlin in 1900 while living in East Orange, New Jersey.
Kirk relates in 1974; ..."Then she came out here (New Jersey) and she was primarily a housekeeper, but she had many interests - cultural interests; a woman's club. I can remember she was always writing papers about something...occasionally interes ted in music but only as an auditor. She was interested in art, she was interested in travel, all in a constrained manner...and the one great thing she did for my brother and I; she was anxious for us to have the best education. She had brown eyes ...and was 5'5" with brown hair. She was considered to be quite a beautiful girl and woman."

CHRISTAN SCIENCE
"She was always religiously interested, as a Presbyterian and perhaps a Congregationalist, but through her difficulties she became a Christian Scientist." Margaret had remained a Congregationalist until becoming a Christian Scientist. "On Novembe r 2, 1917, she joined The Mother Church, The First Church of Christ, Scientist, in Boston, Massachusetts, At the time, Mrs McFarlin was a member of The First Church of Christ, Scientist, East Orange, New Jersey, and her address was 170 Glenwood Av enue, East Orange." (# 2) (As to her husband William's religious interests Kirk relates that "...he was always a decent man, but to my knowledge never really had any religious affiliation.")
"And she became very - what I considered to be too - deeply engrossed. At the time when we thought she could have had help for this physical handicap, she would not have it." (PFM says here in 1974: "She relied on the spirituality instead of the p racticality?")..."that's right. She became a Reader...in the Maplewood church - that's the 1st Church (of Christ Scientist). Normally, the man is the 1st Reader, the woman reads the bible and the man reads The Science Now. And she was superintende nt of sunday school for a number of years."

MEETING THE FOLSOMS
her son Donald had met and become friends with, young Eddie Folsom of Brookline, Massachusetts, while at a summer camp in New Hapshire about 1912 and 1913. Her older son Kirk courted Eddie's older sister, Mary Folsom about 1918 through 1924. Thi s was when Kirk was finishing at MIT in Cambridge,Massachusetts adn later when he joined the US Navy flying with the naval air force in England as a meteorollogist during WW I. There are various photos of Kirk and his mother outside the Folsom's B eacon Street home in Brookline and of her canoeing on Lake Winnepesaukee, New Hampshire

SEPARATION
William and Margaret McFarlin separated about 1920-21, likely because of her nervousness (see below) and her extremist views regarding Christian Science and her desire for independence. Son Kirk went to live with his mother, while her son Donald f irst stayed with his father for a while and then, by April of 1930, Donald was enumerated with his mother at her South Terrace address.
After Donald married Peggy Folsom in 1932 Mrs McFarlin lived on her own for the rest of her life, as did her husband, William.
Kirk had a christmas dinner party in 1932 with Margaret, both her sons and their wives plus young Kirk (Mac) and Polly's parents, the Hollenbecks.

STROKE
"As my mother's condition became more and more difficult...she had developed what I considered to have been a nervous condition which persued her until she had this stroke, which I felt was the conclusion of many things. But it was basically a ner vous weakness I thought. That was about 1935-1937; something like that. She was in Florida visiting at the time, seeing some cousins (the Crabtrees). And she was massively handicapped from that time on with paralysis. She had lost all of one side , but she wasn't going to be done in by something like that. And it was twelve years under those impossible conditions. At that time it was possible to obtain help (live-in nursing assistance) in this area which she did obtain then"

PASSING
Margaret Wiltsie McFarlin died 6:30 am, March 26, 1949 at her own home in Springfield, New Jersey at age eighty-four. Her cause of death was a cerebral hemorrhage which occured twenty-three days earlier. Also noted as an antecedent cause was cereb ral arteriosclerorsis starting sixteen years earlier, in 1933, when she was sixty-eight. James C Christian, DO, of Harrison St, East Orange, New Jersey, had been her attending physician since 1934, and had last seen her alive the morning she died.
Her son Kirk McFarlin, the informent on Margaret's death certificate, stated that she was born in Dundee, Illinois, September 24, 1864, was now a widow, and had been living at 39 Henshaw Ave, Springfield, Union co, New Jersey for the prior ninetee n months. Further, that she was a housewife, and her father had been John C Wiltsie and her mother's maiden name had been Mary Wells.

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NOTES
(# 1) Peter Folsom McFarlin (PFM); 9-10 October, 1974 - Personal conversations between PFM and his uncle Kirk and aunt Polly McFarlin while at their home in Short Hills NJ. These were willingly taped and later transcribed to text. Many of the McFa rlin (also spelled McFarland therein) births, marriages, and deaths, with the names, are from the 1832 William McFarland bible, presented to his grandson, William Kirk McFarland by Wm K's mother, Sarah (Kirk) McFarland, March 9, 1897(sic-1877). Ph otocopies of the handwritten vital records pages in that bible, plus copies of other vital record notes and letters, were given to PFM by Kirk, who had the bible and notes in his possession at that time.
(#2) 2003 letter from The Mary Baker Eddy Library, Boston MA to PFM.

REFERENCES:
-1870 census; Dundee, Kane co, Illinois p 261 with her father John Wiltsie (Maggie's age 6, born in Illinois, attending school)
-1880 census; Elgin, Kane co, Illinois ED 85 p 322 with her father John Wiltsie
(Maggie's age 15, born in Illinois, f b in NY, m b in NY, attending school)
-1885 Elgin, Illinois city directory; Miss Margaret Wiltsie, Teacher at Elgin Academy, bds 144 South St (with John C Wiltsie)
-1887, 1888 Elgin, Illinois city directories; Miss Margaret Wiltsie, teacher
-1890 Evanston, Illinois city directory; Miss Margaret W Wiltsie, teacher, Hinman Ave School, resides 323 Hinman Ave, Rogers Park
-1891 Illinois State board of Health; register 2 p 296, marraige license # 751, for; William Kirk McFarlin a 31of Topeka, Kansas, and Margaret Welles Wiltsie a 26 of Elgin, Illinois
-1895 census; Davenport, Iowa; William McFarland (sic) a 35, Margt McFarland a 30 and Charles McFarland a 2 b Kansas.
-1900 census; East Orange, Essex co, New Jersey ED 180 p 201 with her husband William (Margaret's age 35, born in Illinois, m 9 yrs, 1 of 1 children alive, b f and m b NY)
-1910 census; East Orange City, Essex co, New Jersey ED 163 p 266b with her husband William (Margaret's age 46, born in Illinois, m 19 yrs, 2 of 2 children alive, b f and m b in US)
-1920 census; East Orange, Essex co, New Jersey ED 31 p 70 with her husband William (Margaret's age 46 sic, born in Illinois, b p b in Ohio sic) living at 170 Eastwood St (Glenwood Ave).
-1930 census; Millburn, Essex co, New Jersey ED 505 p 5b with her son Donald only (Margaret's age 65, born in Illinois, mar when 34, b p b in NY) living at 84 South Terrace
-1949 New Jersey State Department of Health, Certificate of Death #11866

Other Events and Attributes:

• Name: Anderson McFarland
• Name: Anderson McFarland

Notes:

ANDERSON MCFARLAND/MCFARLIN 1828 - 1890
by; Peter F McFarlin - 2008

This was written in 1881-1882 (*1 p 168) about William (son of John)
McFarland; he "...reared a large family. Eleven children arrived at years of maturity. But one son is living, Anderson, at Coitsville. Four of his daughters are living, viz: Mrs Lydia Mahan, Liberty, Trumbull county; Miss Jemima McFarlin, Niles; M rs Matilda Price, Coitsville, and Mrs Lavina Harris, Youngstown...". In the sketch for William McFarland's wife, Elizabeth Loveland, (*1 p 165), Williams wrote, "...Elizabeth became the mother of six sons and six daughters."
This Anderson McFarland (McFarlin) was born April 12, 1828, at the William McFarland farm on the Hazelton road, Coitsville, Ohio. He was the ninth of twelve children and eventually outlived all of his five older brothers. The 1830 Coitsville censu s first enumerated him in his father's household as the boy under five. Then in 1840, at twelve, he was still the youngest man shown, along with his two older brothers, William age sixteen, and Amos age twenty-eight. It's likely he helped on the f amily farm while he went to the local school, at least until about sixteen, when he farmed at home full time. During the 1840's, he became acquainted with miss Jane Kirk, who lived nearby with her family. Her parents, Andrew and Elizabeth (Baldwin ) Kirkpatrick were living in the northwest part of Coitsville in 1850, near Thorn Hill.
Anderson and Sarah Jane were married April 26 1849,(*2),(*3), probably in Coitsville, by A O Rockwell. Soon after, when they are listed in the 1850 census, they are shown in the census-taker's sequence that puts them on the Hazelton road, (perhap s on a part of his father's farm there). The listing order of the 1850 census is particularly informative, in that almost all the neighbors on the later 1874 town map (*4), are enumerated in the same order as in the 1850 census. If true, this woul d put their first small farmstead between the McCartney's and the Vale's farms, and also near the Mahoning River valley farms of Anderson's grand parents, Amos and Jemima Loveland, and their families. Town land records would prove this, or not.
During the next few years, their family life had a number of personal tragedies. Sarah's mother, Elizabeth (Baldwin) Kirkpatrick died in May 1851, age sixty-nine. Then Anderson and Sarah's first child, William E McFarland, died in August, 1851, ju st nine months old. Next, Anderson's father, William McFarland, passed away in December of 1853, his age seventy-three, and finally, Anderson's second child, Alice Kirk McFarland, died in August, 1854, at age two.
But their lives turned for the better, as their next six children lived. In 1860, Anderson apparently was still living on the Hazelton road (near the McCartneys) and was still next to his widowed mother Elizabeth (Loveland) McFarland with her smal l household. Anderson and Sarah at the time, had; Lovina age six, Mary age four, Betsy age two and William Kirk McFarland four months old.
By the next census in 1870, the Anderson McFarland family had prospered. They had moved to a new neighborhood in the center of Coitsville village (see map). Also moving up to the center, in a household next door to Anderson's farm, were his mothe r Elizabeth, brother Amos and sister 'Lucinia' (Lavina). Anderson's farm real estate value had increased by twenty times to over ten thousand dollars, the eighth highest 1870 valuation in the township (out of more than two hundred). About this tim e of 1870-80 the Anderson McFarland/McFarlin family began spelling their last name McFarlin.
Indicated in the 1880 census, Anderson was still farming, Sarah kept house, and five of their six living children were with them, (Mary Olivia McF having moved out). Vine J McFarland, the oldest daughter at twenty-six, was a school teacher, as wa s her sister Betty McFarland, age twenty-two. Perhaps they were both giving classes in the corner school just to the north, a mile and half away on the main road (see map).
William Kirk McFarlin, their oldest son, was now twenty and listed as still attending school, however this 'school' was the Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio where William registered at the University as "...Will K McFarlin, son of A McFarli n."(*5). A younger brother, Frank McFarland, age sixteen, was helping on the farm while finishing up his primary schooling, (taught by his sisters?). Anderson's youngest child, Eddie McFarland, age fourteen, was also still in school while living a t home.
Information is given in the 1880 census as to the birth places of the parents of all people listed. This becomes good confirming evidence for tracing obscure data as to various ancestor's locations. For Anderson and Sarah McFarland, the places o f birth given in 1880 are very useful; Anderson's father (William McFarland), was born in Ireland, and his mother, (Elizabeth Loveland), born in Vermont. For Sarah, her father, (Andrew Kirkpatrick), was born in New Jersey, and her mother, (Elizabe th Baldwin), was born in Pennsylvania.
Williams had stated in his 1882 biographical sketch that Anderson had become the "...owner of a good farm of one hundred and ninety acres situated near the center of the township...Mr McFarlin (sic) has been a Republican since the party was formed . He was postmaster at Coitsville for seventeen years. The family are well known and highly respected in this county" (*1 p 175).
Anderson died in August 1890, at the age of sixty-two, probably at his home/farmstead in Coitsville center.

PFM's sources for Anderson McFarland(McFarlin); Farmer, Postmaster;

1830 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 249 with his father William (Anderson's age <5)
1840 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 190 with his father William (Anderson's age 10-15)
1850 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 584 (his age 22, farmer, born in Ohio)
1860 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 13 (his age 32, farmer, born in Ohio, real value $450, pers value $600)
1870 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 107 (his age 42, farmer, born in Ohio, spelled McFarland, real value $10,220, pers value $1,630)
1880 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 90 (his age 52, farmer, born in Ohio, spelled McFarland, father b in Ireland, mother b in Vermont)
Other References;
*1 Williams; 1882 v 2
*2 McFarlin; 2008 Many of the McFarlin births, marriages, and deaths, with the names, are from the 1832 William McFarland bible, presented to his grandson, William Kirk McFarlin by Wm K's mother, Sarah (Kirk) McFarland, March 9, 1877 (1897?). Ph otocopies of the vital records pages in that bible, plus copies of other vital record notes and letters, were given to Peter F McFarlin in 1974, by his uncle, Charles Kirk McFarlin, in Short Hills, New Jersey, who had the bible and notes in his po ssession at that time.
*3 Marraiges of Mahoning county; 1846-1851 p 108
*4 1874 Map of Coitsville, Ohio
*5 1971 letter to P F McFarlin from Ohio State University
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Anderson married Sarah Jane Mary Kirk on 26 Apr 1849 in Coitsville, Trumbull (later Mahoning), Ohio, USA. Sarah was born on 21 Jan 1830 in Coitsville, Mahoning, Ohio, USA; died in 1893 in Coitsville, Mahoning, Ohio, USA; was buried in Oak Hill Cemetery, Youngstown, Mahoning, Ohio, USA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Name: Sarah Mary Kirk

Notes:

"...Mrs McFarlin is the daughter of Andrew and Elizabeth (Baldwin) Kirk. Andrew Kirk came at an early date from Washington county, Pennsylvania; he was originally from New Jersey. Elizabeth Baldwin was the daughter of Caleb Baldwin, one of the fir st settlers in Youngstown..."(*1 p 175).
Sarah Jane Kirk, daughter of Andrew and Elizabeth (Baldwin) Kirk(patrick), was the youngest of thirteen children. Her father Andrew was one of the first blacksmiths in Youngstown, Ohio (about 1800). Andrew's blacksmith shop (and home?) was next t o Caleb Baldwin on the north side of Federal street in 1805 -10. Caleb reportedly had given his daughter Elizabeth and her husband Andrew a farm of fifty-three acres nearby in Coitsville, just south of the Thorn Hill area on the McGuffey road. Thi s farm they made their homestead at least by 1826, and Sarah was born there in Coitsville, Ohio, January, 1830.
In 1849, at age nineteen, Sarah married Anderson McFarland, who grew up on the William McFarland farm, two miles to the south on the other side of Dry Run Creek in Coitsville. The young couple first lived on the Hazelton road near his father Willi am's farm, where they began their family. They lived in this area for at least the next ten years and, with many of their neighbors, attended the nearby Methodist Episcopal church on the Youngstown-New Bedford (PA) road where the Poland road inter sects it (*1 p 170).
By 1870 they had moved to a larger farmstead two miles east, just to the north side of Coitsville center near the Bissels and McGeehans (see 1870's Coitsville map). Here, on their large farm of 190 acres, they remained at least until 1882 when Wil liams writes of them and their children in the History of Trumbull and Mahoning Counties (*1 p 175). They had nine children, with two dying young.
In 1877 (1897?) Sarah (Kirk)McFarland presented her husband Anderson's family bible to her oldest son, William Kirk McFarlin (along with a small, ca 1875 photo of her brother, Thomas Kirk) (*2).
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Sarah McFarland's date and place of death have not been located and further searching of vital and church records is needed here.

Sources for Sarah Jane Kirk(patrick)
1830 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 248 with her father Andrew Kirkpatrick (her age <5)
1840 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 190 with her father Andrew Kirkpatrick (her age 5-15)
1850 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 584 (her age 20, born in Ohio)
1860 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 13 (her age 30, born in Ohio)
1870 census; Coitsville, Ohio 107 (her age 40, born in Ohio, keeping house)
1880 census; Coitsville, Ohio p 90 (her age 50, wife, born in Ohio, keeping house, father b in New Jersey, mother b in Penna)
1890 census; not extant
1900 census; Sarah McFarland(McFarlin) not found

Other References
*1 Williams; 1882 v 2
*2 McFarlin; 2003 Many of the McFarlin (McFarland) births, marriages, and deaths, with the names, are from the 1832 William McFarland bible, presented to his grandson, William Kirk McFarland by Wm K's mother, Sarah (Kirk) McFarland, March 9, 187 7 (1897?). Photocopies of the vital records pages in that bible, plus copies of other vital record notes were given to Peter F McFarlin in 1974, by his uncle, Charles Kirk McFarlin, in Short Hills, New Jersey, who had the bible and notes in his po ssession at that